When it comes to coaching young athletes, it’s natural for parents to want to take the lead. But here’s the truth: great parenting doesn’t always equal great coaching—and recognizing the difference is key to helping your child thrive in sports.

The Importance of Objectivity in Coaching

Coaching requires a level of objectivity and emotional distance that most parents understandably lack. While emotional support is essential, youth athletes need guidance that matches their age, ability, and interest level—not just a parent’s personal goals or athletic achievements.

When Should Kids Start Structured Training?

Before age 14, children don’t need a strict training plan. Their main focus should be on:

• Having fun

• Developing fundamental skills

• Enjoying movement

That’s why we don’t offer structured training for kids under 14. For athletes between 14–16, we evaluate on a case-by-case basis to ensure the right developmental fit.

We do support young athletes under 14 with:

• Technique coaching

• Safety training

• Skill-building and mentoring

Structured programs at this age are better handled by school teams or community sports organizations, such as local swim teams or youth soccer clubs.

Let Kids Discover Their Passion for Sports

Even if you’re an elite athlete, your child may not have the same motivation or drive. Imposing adult-level expectations can add pressure that leads to burnout. Instead, let your child:

• Try different sports

• Explore their interests

• Decide what excites them

Motivation must come from within, not from parental pressure.

Avoid Over-Training: Keep It Fun and Unstructured

Young children shouldn’t feel like they’re training—they should be spending quality time with their parents through play and light activity. Avoid strict performance goals like “we must run two miles today,” which can make the experience feel like work instead of fun.

As your child matures:

• Set realistic and age-appropriate goals

• Offer positive, encouraging feedback

• Focus on effort, not outcomes

There will be plenty of time for competition as they get older.

Focus on Confidence and Character in Pre-Teens

The pre-teen years are ideal for building:

• Self-esteem

• Sportsmanship

• Technical skills

If you bring a coach into the picture, take time to understand their methods and ensure they match your family’s values. A good coach supports more than just performance—they support the whole athlete.

Be a Supportive Parent, Not a Sideline Coach

Avoid giving directions during practices or games. Respect the coach’s role and never undermine them in front of your child or others. If you have concerns, address them privately. Remember: kids mirror your behavior. Set a positive example.

Conclusion: Support, Don’t Pressure

The ultimate goal of youth sports should be to help kids build confidence, stay active, and fall in love with movement. Support your child, let them lead the way, and resist the urge to turn play into pressure.

Your role as a parent is powerful—use it to inspire, encourage, and most importantly, make sports a joyful experience.